Embrace flexibility to create positive change.
We should not allow our thinking to get crystallized, rigid, or formed. Then we’ve lost the battle. To be set in your ways is to be part of history. We must keep all our options open and keep our thinking and our life flexible to make the most of our lives. We must be ready to embrace God-given interruptions in our lives. We must be ready to roll with the punches, to roll as the storm breaks because it always breaks when we least expect it. We must be open to ANY and ALL possibilities. If we’re not, we are or have become or will become rigid, hardened, and boring. We set ourselves upon a rock where the wind and storm will break us, but God is our refuge in the storm and He places our feet on solid ground. We should accept our behavioral history, identify places where we can compromise, practice flexible actions, do some mental stretching, reward our choice to retreat, and learn that failure IS functional. Flexibility in life does not mean perfection. It means being capable of being bent repeatedly without injury or damage. Amongst all this, first and foremost is the belief in God’s perfect plan and will for our lives. We must give up the life we imagined for the life that is waiting for us, the life that He orchestrated perfectly for us. “Ultimately spiritual awareness unfolds when you’re flexible, when you’re spontaneous, when you’re detached, when you’re easy on yourself and easy on others.” (Deepak Chopra said that) We are not the sole possessors of truth. We manage at times to agree willingly to become prisoners within our own minds and souls of beliefs, of expectations, of false perfections, of ideas on which we can never be flexible. God did not create us to stand in the storm to be blown away. He created us to stand in the storm and even when the wind blows hard against us trying to knock us down, He gives us the strength to adjust our sails. Let Him steer your ship today. Your road bumps, detours, and setbacks are just an adventure. Which life do you choose to live today? The one YOU planned for yourself that will ALWAYS leave you empty handed and empty hearted or the ONE that He created for you to fulfill your every need, to answer your every prayer, and to make you happy? I don’t see that being a hard choice.
Be blessed today,
Welcome to my blog. Where I share the breathings of my heart. My life stories, my experiences, my motivations, my inspirations, my downfalls, my successes, and everything in between. I am the mother of three beautiful girls who continuously show me what true love is. From the kindness of a smile from my oldest, to therapeutic and wise words from my middle child Kaitlin, to the sweetest hugs and kisses out of the blue from my littlest one Lily… without them, life would be incomplete. I am constantly on a journey to better myself; for others, mainly. Because… after all… life’s not about what’s in it for us, but what’s in us FOR OTHERS. God has shown me such amazing love through Him and I am forever in His graces and in His hands. If I can be of courage and good cheer to another soul…if I can offer kindness to a stranger… if I can comfort another… I do it through His love. Without Him, I am not whole. One more person saved in Jesus’ name is one reason I’m alive. My life’s passion is to comfort and counsel. My journey continues as I work towards my Doctorate at one of the most accredited and amazing schools for the MFT program in the world. Stay tuned throughout my journey as I live with purpose and passion for the Lord. ❤
Emotions are fickle. People are fickle. They are there one moment and the next they are gone. People say things they don’t mean. They lie to themselves. They are stuck in their own bubble. When you find true friends, keep them close. They are like family. They will make time for you at a moment’s notice. They will call you to check up on you. No matter how many times you get down even if it’s about the same thing, they’ll gently guide you and make you feel better always making time for a friend. They consider your feelings and emotions. They match deed to word. As much as we all have flaws as human beings, friends don’t just point out your flaws; they point out their own flaws, even sometimes doing so first. Friends remain focused in their life’s tasks, but all the while they still make time to lend an ear, a hand, but mostly their soul. Friends are not selfish. They are quick to apologize. They are gentle and slow to anger. They motivate you. They inspire you. They want the best for you and truly enjoy your presence. They make you feel appreciated always! They make it known that your time spent is appreciated and that your friendship is valued. They meet you half way. They give and expect nothing in return. They are consistent, they are trustworthy, they match deed to word, and they are THERE. The important thing to remember is we as humans cannot change people. But we observe and we make choices based off of that. Pray for those that cannot recognize how their behavior affects others. The important ones who truly value you and appreciate will make it known; especially before it’s too late. Life is short. Make it count…. Especially with people that matter and that love you.
In His Hands,
FIND IT! BE IT! DO IT!
I don’t think I’ve ever shared my passion with a lot of people. Amongst so many things including the love of people and the love of life, I have a deep passion to counsel others. There was once a time in my life where I was being pressed to follow a career path that I was not happy with. As I spent a couple years in school preparing myself for this career, God kept speaking to me. It was during my Communications class, as I aced every single test, and every single report and task was not even work for me, that I realized I was meant to spend my entire life helping others. During my oral final, my teacher was astounded by what came from my mouth. She said, if you don’t know what it is that you need to do, you’ve just found it. If I could spend the rest of my life counseling people, being a life coach, relationship counselor, etc., I would work for free and be the happiest person on this Earth. Where do you see yourself down the line? Where is it that your passion lies? I see myself gracing stages speaking inspiration and life to people. I see myself having one on one therapy sessions with people. I see myself speaking to masses of people coaching them on life. I see myself being used by God in every which way possible to further his work. I see myself sharing this vibrant life with others so that they see the abundant blessings God has for them. Wake up, people. Find what it is you LOVE to do and GO DO IT!
Once you find your passion, you will NEVER work another day in your life.
In His Hands,
This is me.
The silly girl. The girl who’s energy everyone loves. The one who everyone gets along with. The girl who will cross oceans for you. The girl who makes friends instantly. The girl who loves with a passion. The girl who believes in herself and that she is beautiful. The girl that knows she deserves only the best. Beneath the makeup and behind the smile, I am just a girl who wishes for the world. (Marilyn Monroe) I don’t have the body of a supermodel. I am not quiet, calm, or reserved but I am brutally and gracefully honest. I am the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve. I am the girl who has ethics and values. I am soulful and I am passionate. I have a HUGE heart for others and I love God. I love people. I just do. A lot. I fall. I rise. I make mistakes. I live. I learn. I’ve been hurt; very, very hurt, but I’m alive. I’m human and I’m not perfect. But I’m blessed and I’m thankful. Essentially, even having said this; I’m a girl that can NEVER be defined. I’m a free spirit. I’m on a journey with my work, my explorations, and a few sad stories. I travel EVERYWHERE with a suitcase full of OUTRAGEOUS blessings one of them being my amazing daughters. I’m on a quest for beauty, and quiet joy. I am an artist, a writer, an explorer. I’m not a one in a million kind of girl. I’m a once in a lifetime kind of woman. Indeed I am.
It is often debated in this world what the difference is between religion and a relationship with God.
By the standards of a dictionary, religion is : The belief in and worship of a superhuman controlling power, esp. a personal God or gods.
Let’s see what the definition of relationship is:
- The way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.
- The state of being connected by blood or marriage.
I personally love the definition of relationship. The biggest keyword is “connected” and furthermore, “blood” is an even bigger keyword. I strive to have a relationship with my Savior and don’t really identify with a particular religion except to say that I am a Christ-believer.
My relationship with God is a superhuman connection by the blood of Jesus Christ. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)
Religion can be very different than having a Relationship with God through Jesus Christ. God’s plan is not based on people’s efforts and good works, but is based on His amazing Love and amazing Grace for us. Once you experience and learn how to LOVE like Him, your relationship with the Lord will be strengthened, but moreover, your heart will be so full. I am so extremely blessed to have experienced this myself and since, I have never experienced life more abundantly, more passionately, and more purposefully. Take the leap of FAITH and remember, HE loves YOU and wants to hear from you every moment of every day.
“I (Jesus) am the way, the truth, and the life. No one may come to the Father except through me.” – John 14:6
“For by grace are you saved, through faith; and this not of your own, it is the gift of God. Not of works, lest any man should boast.” – Ephesians 2:8-9
There are many people we meet in our lives but only a very few will make a lasting impression on our minds and our hearts, but most importantly our souls. It’s easy to be a pal, a buddy, a companion, or an acquaintance, but to be a TRUE friend means SO very much more.
It means being trusted and trusting, honest and dedicated, supportive, and AVAILABLE. It means going strong with your own life’s work and plans, yet reaching out to another when you’re needed and maybe even when you are not. What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?
Take some time to learn how to be a TRUE friend and part of that involves learning about TRUE love… then you will find life to be more abundant and the people in your life that matter will stay. Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything. And remember… always match WORD to DEED. Never promise, insinuate, or say things you can’t follow through with your actions.
A friend is someone you hold dear:
Someone who is always there, through thick and thin;
Someone who is only a phone call away.
A friend is someone you can always rely on:
Someone who is there to share your thoughts with;
Someone to listen, no matter the subject.
A friend is someone you can feel comfortable with:
Someone you can sit silently beside, without conversation;
Someone you do not need to fill the quiet moments with.
A friend is someone you can trust:
Someone who will guard your deepest secrets;
Someone who will never let you down.
A friend is someone who is not judgmental:
Someone who will gently offer advice and opinions,
Yet, someone who is not overbearing or critical.
A friend is someone who can keep you grounded:
Someone who can help you see through your obstacles;
Someone to shoulder you through life’s trials.
A friend is someone who shares unconditionally:
Someone to laugh and to cry with;
Someone to lean on, through both the good and the bad.
A friend is someone you choose wisely,
For a friend is your own mirrored image:
Someone to compliment your own self;
Someone who indicates who you are as a person.”
– Kit McCallum