A lot of people like to throw around this so very important and meaningful word. I don’t think a lot of people even know what TRUE love is. To each their own… but to me, this is LOVE. And to know it, to feel it, to recognize it, to be able to have enough words to explain it, is something that’s taken me years to be able to do. If you’re at a point where you need to discover this feeling, take some time to read the following. This was part of something I wrote recently that was SO very important to me; almost a confession of the heart, but most importantly, TRUTH beyond all measure. Beyond it all, the word or words don’t mean ONE THING unless you decide you will match these words to deed. Trust me… if you do, you will live life so much more abundantly and beautifully. You will discover a heart and soul you never had for others and also for yourself. Much LOVE and sweetness, Dee
Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It doesn’t dishonor others, it is definitely not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps NO records of wrongs. It does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always HOPES, and always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. Loving the people around us can be very challenging. The kind of love being talked about is seen, experienced, and demonstrated. This is contrary to our popular culture that honors personal feelings above almost everything. We do what we want when we want because we “feel” like it. And if we don’t “feel” like it, we don’t do it. Love does not act unbecomingly. In studying behavior, once again, I have learned that some people seem to take delight in being blunt, justifying on the grounds of honesty. Caring for someone doesn’t allow for telling it like it is; it doesn’t allow for verbalizing all our thoughts, particularly if those thoughts don’t build others up. There is a graciousness in caring for someone which never forgets that courtesy, tact, and politeness are lovely things. Caring for someone means not being stubborn or dominating. It does not mean talking too much, but seeks to listen as well. It does not mean insisting on our own way. It means being willing to defer to others. Love is not provoked and by saying that, it means not being given to emotional outbursts, not being exasperated by petty annoyances. We don’t have to get irritated by others. This virtue can be translated as “Love is not touchy”. People are so quick to take offense that sometimes it feels like we need to handle them with such cautiousness. Measuring every word you say to make sure that you say EXACTLY what you mean and feel, but sometimes the other person still seizes upon something and twists it around. Love does not keep a ledger of evil deeds. It doesn’t hang on to reminders of wrongs. It doesn’t nitpick and point out every flaw of the other. It is always ready to allow for extenuating circumstances, giving the other person the benefit of the doubt, and believing the best about people and only that.
There are times in life where we face situations so difficult that faith is not possible. We would gladly give the benefit of the doubt but there may be none to give. We search for the silver lining, but the angry clouds overhead have none. Graciousness and love has a positive forward look. It’s not to advocate an unreasoning optimism, which may fail to take account of reality. The point is that love refuses to take failure as final, either in oneself or in someone else. It never gives up on people. And the reason that I as a believer can take such an attitude is because God is in the business of taking human failures and producing spiritual giants out of them. It doesn’t mean to sit back and watch God do his thing. It means that we get actively involved in the process as He molds the future according to His perfect plan. Love hopes and it expects the best. It never loses faith in other people and gives up on them but remains faithful to them, in spite of their shortcomings. Love holds fast to people it loves. It perseveres. It never gives up on anyone and won’t stop loving, even in the face of rejection. It takes action to shake up an intolerable situation and looks beyond the present to the hope of what might be in the future.
I guess I’m trying to say that this LOVE for people I speak of is one we are NEVER able to bestow upon another unless we experience this LOVE ourselves from God alone. Call me crazy or whatever you think, but it’s the truth. This is the only reason, I love the way I do. All these things I’ve explained, it’s called a true AGAPE love. People are so astounded by how much love I have for others. I am not just talking about a romantic love. This LOVE is a love in general for others. I will never change the way I love others because I know the truth and am a true believer of all of these things.